If you are being abused, there are three major steps ahead of you: 1) Recognize the abuse. 2) Escape the abuse. 3) Heal.

Here are some dope resources.


1) Recognize It

If you think you might be in an abusive relationship, here are some articles you can read to understand what abusive relationships look like, red flags of abusive relationships, and how to identify it (even when you're abuser is telling you the abuse is not happening):

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/200812/are-you-dating-abuser

http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/

http://www.newhopeforwomen.org/red-flags-for-domestic-abuse

http://www.thehotline.org/2012/09/red-flags-of-abuse/

http://www.caring-unlimited.org/what-is-domestic-violence/for-victims-and-survivors/is-my-relationship-abusive

http://nnedv.org/resources/stats/gethelp/redflagsofabuse.html

2) Escape It

Ready to escape? It's serious business. Make sure you read this (and read it on a computer he isn't monitoring...you know exactly what I mean if you're being abused):

http://www.thehotline.org/help/path-to-safety/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/09/28/5-ways-to-escape-an-abusive-relationship/

http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_type.php?id=13422&state_code=PG

For Orange County residents...

https://www.laurashouse.org/

3) Heal

Lots of peeps don't get the psychological element of abuse. But I do. Think you have PTSD from abuse? Here are some great resources to help you understand what is going on. If you've suffered sustained psychological or emotional abuse, there is a chance you have C-PTSD (complex PTSD).

https://www.womenshealth.gov/violence-against-women/mental-health-effects-of-violence/

http://www.sacap.edu.za/blog/counselling/ptsd-awareness-day-abusive-relationships/

http://www.narcissismaddictionsabuse.com/Narcissist-Emotional-Verbal-Abuse-Harm-Brain.html

One of the not-so-fun side effects of PTSD is Dissociation. Yay. Here are some helpful resources to navigate one of the shittiest parts of abusive relationships (and trust me, if he gives you this, he will use it against you, so it's super important you understand what it is):

http://www.joyfulheartfoundation.org/learn/domestic-violence/effects-domestic-violence

http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/the-psychological-wounds-of-domestic-violence

https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/PTSD-overview/Dissociative_Subtype_of_PTSD.asp

http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/articles/reexperiencinghyperaroused-and-dissociative-states-posttraumatic-stress-disorder

Some great resources for healing:

http://www.thebreathenetwork.org/

https://www.headspace.com

http://www.thehotline.org/2013/05/life-after-abuse-helpful-books-to-check-out/